Exciting Sexual Energy Discussion
This discussion was created by Nicole Mazzeo of Pleasure Pie.
Key
Discussion Outline
Key
- Popcorn Style - Let people speak when they have something to say, in no particular order. Not everyone needs to speak.
Discussion Outline
- Introductions:
- Everyone goes around and says their name, the pronouns they use, and as honestly and specifically as possible, what they are feeling right now.
- Group guidelines:
- We're going to be talking about some sensitive things here. What are some things that would make you feel more comfortable talking about these things in this group? (Popcorn style)
- Invite everyone to stand, then stretch, then massage themselves, then hug themselves, then, optionally kiss themselves somewhere (about 10 seconds per each of these things).
- Discussion question:
- Do you get crushes often? Do you like to find new people to be sexual with often? What does it feel like when you are sexual with a new person?
- Go around in a circle so each person speaks.
- Pair discussion:
- Have people find a discussion partner (preferably someone they don't know). Each partner will have 4 minutes to respond to the following questions (all together, not 4 minutes per question) while the other person listens, then switch for 4 minutes so the other partner responds, and then 4 minutes of back and forth reflection conversation.
- If you like to be sexual with new people often, how do you make sure that no one gets (emotionally) hurt in short term flings?
- If you are more monogamous, or long term, or solo-loving, how do you keep up exciting sexual energy with your partner, or yourself?
- If you don't engage sexually with yourself or others, what types of practices excited and energize you?
- Have people find a discussion partner (preferably someone they don't know). Each partner will have 4 minutes to respond to the following questions (all together, not 4 minutes per question) while the other person listens, then switch for 4 minutes so the other partner responds, and then 4 minutes of back and forth reflection conversation.
- How do you make sure no one gets emotionally hurt in short term flings? (Popcorn style)
- How do you gauge your level of responsibility for your fling partners' feelings? (Popcorn style)
- How do you gauge your level of responsibility for your fling partners' feelings? (Popcorn style)
- How do you keep up excitement in long term relationships? (Popcorn style)
- What is your sexual energy feeling like lately?
- Any final thoughts or reflections? (Popcorn style)