Sex Positive Boston discussion group
There are lots of awesome people who embrace sexual diversity and value sexual freedom in Boston and nearby. We should know each other!

Sex Positive Boston is a way for people who are interested in sexual freedom to explore their thoughts about sex, culture, bodies, relationships, gender, etc. together. We meet once a month for a thoughtful, challenging, and personal discussion.

Our discussions are not focused on dispensing knowledge. We're not trying to lead you to a certain conclusion. We value your ideas, and we believe that we can learn from you sharing your thoughts and experiences (and vice versa).

At the end of each discussion, there is a show-and-tell of any thoughtful sexuality projects/initiatives people may be working on. Feel free to bring information/flyers/visuals/etc. about your project if you have one!

Our discussions are open to the public, and intended for people of all genders, races, class backgrounds, etc. Our hope is to have a diverse crowd. Feel free to invite people! 

There are first timers and regulars at every discussion, so don't worry, you will probably never be the only person who's showing up for the first time!

We're on an indefinite hiatus.

We haven't been having these discussions recently, and instead have been organizing an activism group called Sex-Positive Action Group.

Stay in the loop!

1. Get Sex Positive Boston emails.
One email per month.
2. Join the Sex Positive Boston Facebook group.

Safer Space Guidelines

At the beginning of each discussion, we agree on some discussion guidelines that aim to make people feel comfortable opening up about vulnerable topics.

​You can find a list of guidelines we often use at the link below.

Past topics have included:

  • The insecurities we have around sex, how they affect our sexual expression, and what we do to navigate them.
  • Sex-positive and/or social justice frameworks that have confused us or rubbed us the wrong way.
  • If someone asks you to change your sexual behavior to make them more comfortable, how do you figure out whether they are communicating healthy boundaries, or imposing oppressive restrictions? And if you are trying to embrace your sexuality and grow into feeling a sense of sexual freedom, how does adhering to someone else's boundaries play into that?
  • Is race play harmful? Is it okay if everyone is enthusiastically consenting?
  • Porn and racism.
  • Your sexual expression: ​Do you find it easy/natural to express your sexual side, or is it a challenge? What does your sexual expression look like? If there was no possibility of judgment, what might your most authentic sexual expression look like?
  • Sex and love: Does being sexual with someone make you feel love for them? What does it feel like to be sexual with someone you don't love? How do sex and love overlap for you, and how are they separate?
  • Sex, race, sex positivity, and anti-racism.
  • ​Sex and shame.
  • Our experiences of having sex drives that are low, high, or somewhere in the middle.
  • Masculinity: How do you feel about masculinity? Are conventional ways of expressing masculinity inherently oppressive?
  • Telling a partner your life story in 5 minutes, with a focus on sex.
  • Reflections on sex, self love, and self care.
  • How has sex in the media (porn, movies, books, art, and music) affected your personal relationship with sex?
  • What do you wish you could tell the world about sex and sexuality that isn't portrayed in our mainstream culture?
  • Sexual ethics: Sometimes we have gut reactions to taboo sexual practices. How do you determine whether something bothers you because it is unethical (so it may be important to speak up), or because it's just not your cup of tea (and there's no need to comment on it)?
  • What do you like about your unique way of experiencing/expressing sexuality?

Discussion Outlines

Interested in starting your own sexuality discussion group, or just want to know more about our past discussions? You can find our previous discussion outlines at the link below.