There is a new apparel company in Boston whose mission is to promote consent! They’re called Let’s Be Clear, and I asked the founder, Rachel Verner, a few prying questions. I don’t know about you, but whenever I find out about someone doing creative consent education in my city, I want to know more
I am a rape survivor, and I like sex.11/30/2016 By anonymous Pleasure Pie contributor
I am a rape survivor, and I like sex. And I have nightmares about my abusive ex. And I have trouble orgasming with other people. And I worry about being assaulted most days. And I think I probably have PTSD. And I love being touched. And I like casual sex (and that doesn’t have to be an “unhealthy coping mechanism”). And I like loving and being loved. And I find my body really sexy. And I get insecure about whether I’m “doing” sex right/well. And I communicate about consent, STIs, and desires (theirs and mine). And I have creative, weird, kinky, complicated fantasies. And I remind myself all of the time that my desires (and lack of desires) are valid, and that my pleasure is worthwhile! #NotMyPresident Gift Guide11/19/2016 I made an anti-Trump gift guide. My hope is for widespread resistance to Trump to be visible in public every day.
See it here. Sex Positive Zines!11/16/2016 I’m compiling a list of sex-positive zines. I’ll continue to add to this list as I find more. Feel free to send recommendations!
Finding the Words for Sexy Stuff9/5/2016 By anonymous Pleasure Pie contributor
It can be hard to find words you’re comfortable using to describe sexual stuff. There are so many weird or uncomfortable connotations that go along with sex-related words. But having a vocabulary you’re more or less comfortable using makes it a lot easier to communicate about sex with your partner(s), and with anyone! Since better communication tends to mean better sexual experiences, it’s worth a shot! By anonymous Pleasure Pie contributor
[Content notice: Rape and sexual coercion] Last night I went on my first Tinder date, and it was horrible! By Nicole Mazzeo Really long intro (Feel free to skip this part)One of the first things I saw upon waking up this morning was a video of a keynote speech by the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WoCSHN). They are currently at a conference that I am longingly following on social media called The Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit
Tonight’s Sex Positive Boston discussion was a brainstorming session about what we all can do (individually and/or collectively) in response to Orlando, the police killings of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile, targetted killings of police officers, other recent incidents of police brutality, and racism and oppression in general. We did our best to think creatively about how we can contribute to positive change in light of these dark circumstances. There is no one right answer, and we are not here to tell you what approach is right for you!
How to Respectfully Hit on People7/6/2016 This new zine explains how to approach people romantically/sexually in a way that is as positive and empowering for everyone involved as possible.
www.etsy.com/listing/451024236/solicitation-skill-set-a-guide-to 2016 Summer Gift Guide!7/1/2016 I just finished putting together the 2016 Pleasure Pie Summer Gift Guide! It’s full of all sorts of awesome sexual freedom affirming, body loving, gender equality proclaiming creations. Check it out!
By Nicole Mazzeo I am currently reading submissions for the masturbation zine that we’re making, and I love them so, so much! I am teary-eyed big-smiling and holding my hand to my chest as I read because it is so touching. I had no idea how powerful hearing about people’s experiences with masturbation would be for me! But the reason I’m writing this post is to tell you that I am EXTENDING THE DEADLINE TO SUBMIT! You now have until May 25 to submit a piece. Don’t be intimidated by how amazing I just made all of the submissions sound! We love submissions that are honest, open, and clear. You don’t have to be a professional writer to submit a piece. We just want to hear about your experience of masturbation, because that is fascinating in itself! Submissions can be anonymous or not, up to you. Click here to read the full prompt & submit a piece! Update: This zine now exists! You can find it here.
On Whether or Not To Call Rape "Sex"4/4/2016 By anonymous Pleasure Pie contributor
[Content warning] I regularly see people proclaim that rape is not sex, and should not be called sex. As someone who has experienced rape, this feels unnecessarily limiting. Opening My Heart After Rape3/20/2016
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I’ve always been a very polyamorous person, long before I knew the word for it. I feel like I tend to be very open-hearted, and very trusting. When I was in high school, I participated in a group trust fall exercise, and was about a thousand times better at trust falling than anyone else in the group, to the point that I sometimes fell before my partner was even ready to catch me (they did catch me though).
By Nicole Mazzeo
For two months this winter, I took time off from Pleasure Pie projects to reflect and do some self care. I wanted to check in with myself and my community to make sure that my activism (by “activism,” I mean everything I do with Pleasure Pie, including zine making, having events, giving workshops, writing, etc.) is as effective as possible, and that it’s not unintentionally harmful in any way (and if it is, fix that). |